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Serendipity.

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Straight from …MyThoughtBubble…

There is such a thing as being alone, even when their are plenty of people around you. Being alone is not defined by the absence or presence of people, but by your acceptance of the things which surround you.

Let me explain; Sometimes, the friends that you have chosen are not truly your friends at all. Sometimes, those you believe are the closest to you, or at least the ones you hold in your heart are not really meant to be held that close to you for always, or even in the first place.

From experience, I have learned that sometimes, it is better to go without friends or people in your life then to immerse yourself into any group that accepts you (or that you just want to be a part of so that you won’t ever feel the loneliness).

Here is why its important: If the person(s) are not like minded as you, you will go through many sorrows and tribulations. Not to say you don’t learn from them, but to remind you that “you are what you eat…” and “birds of a feather, flock together.” In other words, you already know that people change with time. But did you realize that people themselves can change you too? 

Perhaps it is true that everyone that has walked in your life had their purpose at one time, or even another. But did you ever wonder if the reason that they didn’t make it to your present is because they weren’t suppose to? I can’t decide. However, I have decided that deep down in our minds, and especially in our hearts we really DO know what is good for us. What we choose, is another story.

I suppose what I am trying to say is that you have to learn to separate the logic, and the emotions of your heart. However, just because you separate the two does not mean that your heart does not have logic of its own, or that you logic has no emotions. This is why it is so difficult to separate the two, which are closely intermingled. But, when you have learned to separate the two, I believe you have found a small piece of the puzzle that can help you understand and see the larger picture.

Thus, Learn from your mistakes, because if you don’t you’ll be less likely to survive… and if you do survive, it could be a life of heartache, rather than peace, or wisdom gained through experience… once again depending on the origins of the kind of person that you were. Not everyone is strong enough even when they think they are. Thats why I urge you to avoid the things you know are bad for you. It doesn’t matter if its candy, an allergy, under/over eating, a person, a group, a habit, or a sweetheart. Make sure that the people you hang out with are the kind of people that you want to be. If you don’t, you are more than likely to lose yourself… and not everyone can find their way back. In fact, most don’t.

If you can’t escape the people that you have already deemed to be important in your life, placing the value of their friendship over the value of your own life, then the least you can do for yourself is make a conscience effort to make your life pleasant, worthwhile, and most importantly to meet the ethics and morals that you know to be “the right thing.” Make an effort to smile over something small every day because sometimes its the little things that go a long way. Look to a higher power for guidance, and trust that It can help you succeed. Do the things which are really important to you. It is never too late to do what you feel is right –for you!

Remember that everyone is different, and we each need specific things to help us continue life as we know it. Follow your heart for once, I mean, truly follow it. Don’t follow your emotions. 

These days people mix up the two (love & emotion) waaaay to often! Be careful when you decide which one you are following. Believe it or not, your heart IS really intelligent, it’s the emotions that get in the way. Serendipity… this message is an eye opener. I just hope it can reach someone whose been lost in their own thoughts, emotions, delusions, whatever.

Best wishes, from the bottom of my heart.

Sincerely,

Lady Elizabeth

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Test Your Knowledge: Did You Know?

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The other day I was talking in class with my friend Tabitha… she claimed that she’s always right, and knows everything… and though she was most likely joking, I thought to myself, “You know, a lot of people make this claim. Could it possibly be true?” Here are only a FEW random tidbits… IF ANYONE HONESTLY knows everyone of these facts, please leave a comment saying so, and I will test your knowledge further ;). Good luck!

  1. The only city whose name can be spelled completely with vowels is Aiea, Hawaii, located approximately twelve miles west of Honolulu.
  2. Cats have over one hundred vocal sounds, while dogs only have about ten.
  3. The slogan on New Hampshire license plates is ‘Live Free or Die’. These license plates are manufactured by prisoners in the state prison in Concord.
  4. Barbie’s measurements if she were life size: 39-23-33. And according to research by the University Central Hospital in HelsinkiFinland, she would lack the 17 to 22 percent body fat required for a woman to menstruate.
  5. The tune for the “A-B-C” song is the same as “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.”
  6. The straw was probably invented by Egyptian brewers to taste in-process beer without removing the fermenting ingredients which floated on the top of the container.
  7. The common goldfish is the only animal that can see both infra-red and ultra-violet light.
  8. David Prowse, was the guy in the Darth Vader suit in Star Wars. He spoke all of Vader’s lines, and didn’t know that he was going to be dubbed over by James Earl Jones until he saw the screening of the movie.
  9. The two longest one-syllable words in the English language are “screeched” and “strengths.”
  10. Nine of the thirteen blimps are in the United States.
  11. The Swiss flag is square (most flags are rectangular).
  12. The Boston University Bridge (on Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, Massachusetts) is the only place in the world where a boat can sail under a train driving under a car driving under an airplane.
  13. It is believed that Shakespeare was 46 around the time that the King James Version of the Bible was written. In Psalms 46, the 46th word from the first word is shake and the 46th word from the last word is spear.
  14. Great Britain was the first county to issue postage stamps. Hence, the postage stamps of Britain are the only stamps in the world not to bear the name of the country of origin. However, every stamp carries a relief image or a silhouette of the monarch’s head instead.
  15. The ship, the Queen Elizabeth 2, should always be written as QE2. QEII is the actual queen.
  16. An animal epidemic is called an epizootic.
  17. The little lump of flesh just forward of your ear canal, right next to your temple, is called a tragus.
  18. Other than humans, black lemurs are the only primates that may have blue eyes.
  19. The ridges on the sides of coins are called reeding.
  20. Back in the mid to late 80’s, an IBM compatible computer wasn’t considered a hundred percent compatible unless it could run Microsoft’s Flight Simulator.
P.S. Poodles don’t shed… have you seen them in these different colors before?

Behind the Scenes: Women & Rings!

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The infamous question that women bicker about when men aren’t in the room….

Why is it such a painful and difficult experience, yet not such an important matter when it comes to details like engagement rings (which include expenses – which actually prolong the question’s occurrence)?

For clarification: this post is written so that men can understand why women put importance on a ring. I am not trying to say you must purchase a big ring over a little ring. I am trying to say that the best choice would be to get your girl the ring that you know she desires. Big, or small… it doesn’t matter. 

Often times a woman wants a beautiful diamond because it makes her feel appreciated, loved, secure, and confidant. Another upside to it is that she can share the precious stone for all her friends to see, making them proud that she has finally “found a man who truly loves her, and wants to make her happy” and whom she loves the same in return. It also allows for her to then brag about how special and wonderful a man you really are.

So then, the sad thing is that there are in fact “gold diggers” which have ruined the sanctity of the marriage, and the ring. Many of us however don’t feel this way and would be so hurt to be mistaken and/or assumed to be gold diggers! Chances are if you don’t have much money to begin with, and the girl knows this and she’s still with you then she’s not diggin’ for gold! She’d be elsewhere if she were. Seems like common sense, doesn’t it? Some people haven’t noticed.

In cases where you would buy a stone, keep in mind that it is a sign of love, and sacrifice. It is proof that he can support her, and try to give her the life that he thinks that she truly deserves… and if he loves her, he’ll go to the ends of the earth for her… as she should do for him!

Think about it this way, if someone means a lot to you, be it mom, dad, brother or sister, girlfriend or boyfriend, you want to give them the very best gift you could give them… you want it to be something that they will absolutely love! And when they buy you something, they have those same intentions for you. If they didn’t then what would be the point of gifts? It would be no fun to give, or receive if neither parties enjoyed what was being given or gifted.

Believe it or not it is a traditional thing that we look forward to. Another perspective is that if something means so much to us, then it should mean something to you too… and vise vera. Which is why we work together and try to make the things we want to occur to happen. Truth is, that this is really how many of us woman think guys!

Keep in mind that we will be wearing that rock around our finger for the rest of our lives! So, why not get what we like, I mean, we’ll have to look at it every day, and everyone else will see it too. Marriage is for the long run, it is meant to never end… which happens to be the only reason you should ever join in the “unity” in the first place!

Remember that the first question your girl will receive after a proposal will be, “Can I see your ring?!” or “What’s it look like?” And let me tell you first, if its somewhat pathetic, it becomes embarrassing to wait for the response… like “Oh. Uh. Thats nice,” as opposed to “OH! Wow!! It’s beautiful!”

The ring is a symbol which is often times not thought about seriously enough by some men.  Another important thing to remember is that the ring means absolutely nothing to us if it was not given from the bottom of their heart, with intentions of making us happy. It is when a man truly cares that you hear not a single complaint of how much it cost… but you see them working hard to accomplish something they knew would make you happy, which in turn should make them happy too.

I suppose that one of the reasons we get so confused with the fact that “ring shopping” is so difficult is if it “has to be” something nice… which eventually overwhelms us because we can see what you men are buying when you say you have no money. It makes it seem like the things that would make us happy are irrelevant. Hence, when you buy a gazillion new things and then go on random shopping sprees after you have said you didn’t have any money it is a little baffling to think there was no time even for a nice evening dinner at a fancy restaurant every once in a while, or something that the girl would actually enjoy.

A quote I found from Hannah Moore is very helpful to explain where I am coming from on this subject saying, “Love never reasons but profusely gives; gives, like a thoughtless prodigal, its all, and trembles lest it has done too little.”

If the ring of choice that your woman wants (be it big or small) is too big of a sacrifice for you to handle, then your love is probably not deep enough for her. Chances are, if you give her a small ring, when she wanted a big one, she will still love you, and want to be with you if she truly loves you… but why not go the extra mile to make her happy if you truly love her in return?

It’s not something you run and do at any moment. This is why engagements are planned… which is why a man typically is the one who proposes… it gives him time to make sure that he is “ready” to get married (to avoid any mistakes), that he has enough money to support her (even if she has a job), and to support the family (if they choose to have one), and if he wants to give her the ring (which happens to be a symbolism for lack of better word -for life, love, and support) that she deserves, he can have time to SAVE up for it, then pop the question if and when he’s able and ready.

Hula Hoops Make Me Happy

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You think thats impressive? I dare you to try it, simple, around your waste! You will surely think it is amazing…

The hula hoop is a toy hoop, usually made of plastic, that is twirled around the waist, limbs, or neck (definition provided by google). The hoop was invented by Wham-o Corporation who released the product in 1958.

The term “Hula” was adapted from the Hawaiian dance and was first associated to the toy after people saw the close relations to the cultural dance and the hoop.

Did you know that the balls inside aren’t even really there for a purpose other than the “shoop-shoop sound effect!” I kid you not! That there was a quote.

Not only is the hula hoop a good recreational activity, but a healthy sport. It can be a really fun and healthy habit which could also make you flexible.

The hula hoop is a lot harder than it seems! I remember when I was little I really enjoyed it. So naturally, when I saw one in the store this weekend I bought it, figuring it would be especially fun and a “piece of cake” with my hula experience! I was right, and wrong! I didn’t remember ever struggling with it before, thus, it taught me to admire kids for their energy and coordination! And at first my hips were out of sync with the hoop catching on my clothes and tripping over my shoes. I felt like a kid again! And of course after a few more try’s I finally got it :). It was great!

Another plus is that the hula hoop most definitely teaches you how to laugh at yourself while providing a smile for anyone else who is watching.

Now, I can give you a tip! The moment you start worrying about how you look or what other people are thinking is when the whole thing collapses and the game is all over! So just don’t pay attention. Let yourself loose, have fun, and feel free!

To learn more about the hula hoop click here.

The Truth About Love

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On the subject of: Love.

People have defined love as a feeling, strong emotions, and affection. But is this all it extends to? According to Wikipedia.org, ”Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.”

I’d say this is a fair definition but has left out many important factors which could never be fully grasped by anyone who feels that they have truly been in love.

Love is self sacrificing, and isn’t always necessarily reciprocated from person to person. Love is a mutual bond of trust that can go both ways. Love is persistence. However, to my knowledge in todays understanding we assume that if a couple have been together for a while and are “in love,”  then they should automatically have plans to get married -eventually. I used to think that was the point.

That is until I discovered REAL love. –Not true love per-say, but real love,  (difference even in the two words “real,” and “true”). However, just because two people are in love doesn’t mean they should be together for the rest of their lives. After all, love is NOT “lets run off and get married,” soon as it happens. There are reasons why society expects you to have dated a person for an “at least” period of time. Here’s why I say this: We live and we learn. Dating is a first step to building relationships, falling in love, and getting married (at least most of the time). Dating was designed to help us gain experience and knowledge to better prepare us for our partner. But just because you’ve dated doesn’t mean marriage either.

Love and dating were designed to withstand the battle against time in a relationship. NOT only for a recognized couple, but for long-term friendships, which are necessary to our growth as people. 

You know, people have said that if you are with someone, with no intentions of marriage, than its a dead end and you’re wasting your time. Again, I used to agree, but now I beg to differ.

I know from personal experience that you can be with someone because you enjoy each others company, you have similarities, you have no one else, and you stick up for each other. I guess its like siblings (not to say they are the same as). You do everything together, but maybe you fight sometimes. Siblings are made to be there for the rest of your life, but you aren’t suppose to live with them forever… even if they do play a key part in our growth, and even in sustaining our growth throughout our lives as friends, rather than partners. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry once said “Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.” I feel this sentence proves my point.

Love is friendship, caring and kindness, a symbol of eternity. Love is telling the truth even when it hurts. Love is showing interest in what the other has to say. Love is wanting the other to always be happy. Love is helping around the house. Love is endless forgiveness, and patience. Love is putting the other person before yourself, and being their for each other. Love is thoughtfulness. Love is a shoulder to cry on, even when it is crying about another person. Love is a tender look. Love is “in sickness and in health.” Love is strength. Love is beauty (do i love you because you’re beautiful? Or are you beautiful because I love you?). Love is “I want you in my life forever,” even if that means it won’t be the way that you want them there.

Why leave a relationship that you are happy with just because you think you can’t and won’t get married? The only reason you should do that is if you were to maintain the relationship on a friendship level because you want to start settling down, or to ensure you would never lose the friendship because you went too far in the relationship. However, if you aren’t settling down, or seeking to end the relationship then enjoy the times you have together. Besides, if you are leaving a perfectly good relationship just because you aren’t getting married, chances are you will have doubts. And if you have doubts then it is a dangerous path to take. You could regret it later and it could be too late. After all, you couldn’t possibly know what the future REALLY holds. 

Remember that giving ultimatums is never a good idea because pushing and rushing into a marriage that wasn’t originally desired from both people in the first place could result in a lot more heartache than you’re ready to handle. If you know you need more, and they can’t provide it for you, then you might already have found your answer -to move on. 

Always keep God, and your family high on your priority list, and the rest usually falls into place in due time. When marriage is ready for you. Not the other way around.

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A few Quotes (Perspectives) on Love: 

Love – a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker.  -Author Unknown
Who would give a law to lovers?  Love is unto itself a higher law.  -Boethius,The Consolation of Philosophy, A.D. 524
Shall we compare our hearts to a garden -with beautiful blooms, straggling weeds, swooping birds and sunshine, rain – and most importantly, seeds. -Grey Livingston
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.  -Robert Heinlein
We choose those we like; with those we love, we have no say in the matter.  -Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960
Love unlocks doors and opens windows that weren’t even there before.  -Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966 
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands.  -Quoted by Alexandra Penney in Self

Guess I shouldn’t write everything I think…

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It’s like saying everything you think out loud. I mean I know it sounds almost oxymoronic but its a fair sentence, I promise.

Anyway, the main purpose of this post is to inform you that sometimes censoring the things you do, say, or even think might actually be the better idea.

Honestly, knowing when not to speak has always been a benefit to us as a people. But besides that, it’s kind of like Pastor Sam (the local pastor at the church I attend) said, “If you drive around with your LSU tag (college parking permit) on the car then you better not be doing anything bad!” As it is, more people pay attention then you think, more still are watching, and even more then that can still see you.

I was just sitting here blogging when I had an epiphany that was seemingly obvious but somehow jingled in the rear view mirror of my thoughts; It was the fact that I myself along with todays generation are so willingly plunging ourselves into a pool of strangers. Yes, the internet is in fact a danger, but somehow it has also become an addiction. 

I am curious to to understand how the internet could possibly be safer than many things… more specifically when I think of the harm that it has already caused.

I mean, the internet introduces people to many worldly things. Good, and bad. In my opinion the internet was made specifically as a place for freedom, expansion of learning, and unity through this media of communication. I too am addicted, however I feel like we aren’t actually thinking before we speak, or editing before we publish. 

Blogs typically started as online journals. To this day some people don’t want their identities revealed, yet they provide so much information. I’ll use myspace as an example. For those who do not know it is a social networking company that allows you to keep in contact with friends, or meet new people, making it possible for you to view their pictures, read blog entries, leave comments, messages, and more. It can be a positive or a negative experience based on why you’re there and exactly who you are talking to. However, strangers can view your site too. Yes, there is a choice that allows you to make your site public or private, however all it takes is a code (which I have seen with my own eyes!) to crack that shield straight onto your page, exposing all your “hidden” secrets. Thus, the “about me” section which is generally a summary of the person, their beliefs, possibly nationality, sports and hobbies, and so much more is now free for ANYONE with that code to see. Guess we don’t realize we are practically making our online trip STALKER FRIENDLY!

Now, stalkers aside. Police, and even potential employers are using social-networking companies to get to know who they would be interviewing. Often times, we might not even get the offer because of something they didn’t like, horrible pictures, vocabulary, or posting up our whole lives for the world to see. Why? For what?

I think mostly for curiosity and peer pressure because everyone else was doing it.. meeting boys and girls in their area and hooking up.

Now, the dangers have become more serious. Stalkers, and on the chance of being arrested for doing something you should never have been doing (be it underage drinking – caught via photo, hosting a party that had illigals there, or whatever). Or getting busted by your school who by the way practically force you to lie if you so chose to do anything that would be legal for any other person your age… For example: living off campus with your friends, drinking for your 21st birthday, missing curfew because you got in a fight with your boyfriend.

My point is, don’t be stupid about what you post up. It would be a good idea to stay legal to whatever documents you have signed your life away too… and if you so choose not to, then at least censor yourself.

Learn To Laugh At Yourself

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My life is a comedy. Which sucks since I don’t even like comedies. Which means, life tends to go a different way than I expect it to. Now, the funny thing is that I can just see God up there watching and laughing at the irony of the whole picture of my world which is somewhat of a comic that you just can’t resist to laugh at… even when its you.

This is why, you’ve got to learn how to laugh at yourself. At least that’s what I’ve been telling myself over the years.

My main focus this week has been on approach. The reason I chose that route to follow was because it is such a powerful word. According to english-test.net the definition of approach (noun) is: access; method; system; procedure. It is the way you go about doing something, and the path you choose to follow.

You can choose to be embarrassed in an awkward situation or simply laugh at yourself and take the stress off of the situation. Chances are that people will join in and laugh with you. Now aren’t you happy you made all those people smile? 

This is why I feel it is necessary that you learn early on that the moments when you don’t know what to say, and how to say it. A smile alone could save the moment. When you know how to laugh at yourself then you’ve gained a lesson that many people have a hard time facing. Sometimes it’s a more serious situation where it could be vital for whatever reason and you need an escape route. Be two steps ahead of the crowd. You laugh first. People join in.

In closing, a wise man once said laughter is the best medicine.