According to research from UC Davis, women worry more than men because they’re more likely to believe that past experiences accurately forecast the future.
According to research from UC Davis, women worry more than men because they’re more likely to believe that past experiences accurately forecast the future.
It’s been forever since I last posted… at least since spring quarter class have ended and posting a bulletin didn’t require me to do so at least 3 times a week…
However, I’m taking summer school! Can you believe it? Me? Summer school? I know, ya right! But seriously.. I am, and it blows! Mostly because I’m exhausted…
I mean, the classes that I have are fairly interesting, but they keep me so busy that I hardly have time to exist outside of school. At least I absolutely LOVE my teachers!
I’m taking Religion and Rationality (8AM-11:30a), and The Films of Akira Kurosawa (6-10p). Thus, my days are REALLY long… and I am no early bird.
Work Load: The film class has a 2 page paper due every time we meet… and the viewing of the Kurosawa films… I don’t generally enjoy foreign films however, I found these to be very entertaining :). We also had to read his autobiography, and another book I can’t remember the name of at the moment. Also quite interesting.
but the Religion and Rationality seems more like Philosophy and requires TONS of reading… and comprehension. And questions for discussion. As daily we have 3-4 quizzes for that class on the reading we were assigned. We read 2 books in the period of 3 weeks! And let me tell you.. this stuff does not soak in easily.
Then, at the end of the courses, I’ll have at least 20 pages to write between the two.
Now, despite all the work load, I much prefer summer courses :). After all, you can focus on the subject more, get nitty and gritty right away, then perhaps if you don’t like the course not worry too much just get through it because it will be over soon anyway.
Anyway, just figured I’d fill you in as to why I haven’t been posting lately. But when I get a chance, I’ll write some more! 🙂
Wish me luck!
Straight from …MyThoughtBubble…
There is such a thing as being alone, even when their are plenty of people around you. Being alone is not defined by the absence or presence of people, but by your acceptance of the things which surround you.
Let me explain; Sometimes, the friends that you have chosen are not truly your friends at all. Sometimes, those you believe are the closest to you, or at least the ones you hold in your heart are not really meant to be held that close to you for always, or even in the first place.
From experience, I have learned that sometimes, it is better to go without friends or people in your life then to immerse yourself into any group that accepts you (or that you just want to be a part of so that you won’t ever feel the loneliness).
Here is why its important: If the person(s) are not like minded as you, you will go through many sorrows and tribulations. Not to say you don’t learn from them, but to remind you that “you are what you eat…” and “birds of a feather, flock together.” In other words, you already know that people change with time. But did you realize that people themselves can change you too?
Perhaps it is true that everyone that has walked in your life had their purpose at one time, or even another. But did you ever wonder if the reason that they didn’t make it to your present is because they weren’t suppose to? I can’t decide. However, I have decided that deep down in our minds, and especially in our hearts we really DO know what is good for us. What we choose, is another story.
I suppose what I am trying to say is that you have to learn to separate the logic, and the emotions of your heart. However, just because you separate the two does not mean that your heart does not have logic of its own, or that you logic has no emotions. This is why it is so difficult to separate the two, which are closely intermingled. But, when you have learned to separate the two, I believe you have found a small piece of the puzzle that can help you understand and see the larger picture.
Thus, Learn from your mistakes, because if you don’t you’ll be less likely to survive… and if you do survive, it could be a life of heartache, rather than peace, or wisdom gained through experience… once again depending on the origins of the kind of person that you were. Not everyone is strong enough even when they think they are. Thats why I urge you to avoid the things you know are bad for you. It doesn’t matter if its candy, an allergy, under/over eating, a person, a group, a habit, or a sweetheart. Make sure that the people you hang out with are the kind of people that you want to be. If you don’t, you are more than likely to lose yourself… and not everyone can find their way back. In fact, most don’t.
If you can’t escape the people that you have already deemed to be important in your life, placing the value of their friendship over the value of your own life, then the least you can do for yourself is make a conscience effort to make your life pleasant, worthwhile, and most importantly to meet the ethics and morals that you know to be “the right thing.” Make an effort to smile over something small every day because sometimes its the little things that go a long way. Look to a higher power for guidance, and trust that It can help you succeed. Do the things which are really important to you. It is never too late to do what you feel is right –for you!
Remember that everyone is different, and we each need specific things to help us continue life as we know it. Follow your heart for once, I mean, truly follow it. Don’t follow your emotions.
These days people mix up the two (love & emotion) waaaay to often! Be careful when you decide which one you are following. Believe it or not, your heart IS really intelligent, it’s the emotions that get in the way. Serendipity… this message is an eye opener. I just hope it can reach someone whose been lost in their own thoughts, emotions, delusions, whatever.
Best wishes, from the bottom of my heart.
According to msnbc.com researchers at Stony Brook University School of Dental Medicine say you can eat a special candy that will prevent cavities! Apparently the research was done in Venezuela for 1 year, where they found 61.7% less cavities in children who ate this candy even over children who had good brushing habits and took the “placebo” mint!
Here’s the details: “Children in the study were testing the effectiveness of BasicMints, an experimental fluoride-free treatment designed to mimic a component in human saliva that neutralizes acids in the mouth that can erode tooth enamel. The researchers developed the active compound in the mints known as CaviStat, tested them in 200 children in Venezuela aged 10 1/2 to 11 who were getting their adult molars but still had some baby teeth left. The soft mints are designed to be dissolved and chewed into the biting surfaces of the back teeth, where about 90 percent of cavities in children occur.” –Journal of Clinical Dentistry.
The Experiment: The children were divided among two groups. The first group of children brushed their teeth every morning and every night. Each time they would take two “medicated” -project mints. The second group was assigned to brush their teeth two times a day, and took regular/plain/sugarless mints. Each group brushed with fluoride toothpaste.
“Unlike regular candies, we want this product to be stuck in the teeth,” said Mitchell Goldberg, president of Ortek Therapeutics Inc, a privately held company in Roslyn Heights, New York, that licensed the technology from Stony Brook.
So go check it out! Now, don’t mix up the fact that research has proven you can eat candy without harming your teeth because that statement is false! It is a SPECIALLY designed candy that helps prevent cavities. But yes, for fun, you can tell your parents that candy isn’t so bad after all ;).
The other day I was talking in class with my friend Tabitha… she claimed that she’s always right, and knows everything… and though she was most likely joking, I thought to myself, “You know, a lot of people make this claim. Could it possibly be true?” Here are only a FEW random tidbits… IF ANYONE HONESTLY knows everyone of these facts, please leave a comment saying so, and I will test your knowledge further ;). Good luck!
The infamous question that women bicker about when men aren’t in the room….
Why is it such a painful and difficult experience, yet not such an important matter when it comes to details like engagement rings (which include expenses – which actually prolong the question’s occurrence)?
For clarification: this post is written so that men can understand why women put importance on a ring. I am not trying to say you must purchase a big ring over a little ring. I am trying to say that the best choice would be to get your girl the ring that you know she desires. Big, or small… it doesn’t matter.
Often times a woman wants a beautiful diamond because it makes her feel appreciated, loved, secure, and confidant. Another upside to it is that she can share the precious stone for all her friends to see, making them proud that she has finally “found a man who truly loves her, and wants to make her happy” and whom she loves the same in return. It also allows for her to then brag about how special and wonderful a man you really are.
So then, the sad thing is that there are in fact “gold diggers” which have ruined the sanctity of the marriage, and the ring. Many of us however don’t feel this way and would be so hurt to be mistaken and/or assumed to be gold diggers! Chances are if you don’t have much money to begin with, and the girl knows this and she’s still with you then she’s not diggin’ for gold! She’d be elsewhere if she were. Seems like common sense, doesn’t it? Some people haven’t noticed.
In cases where you would buy a stone, keep in mind that it is a sign of love, and sacrifice. It is proof that he can support her, and try to give her the life that he thinks that she truly deserves… and if he loves her, he’ll go to the ends of the earth for her… as she should do for him!
Think about it this way, if someone means a lot to you, be it mom, dad, brother or sister, girlfriend or boyfriend, you want to give them the very best gift you could give them… you want it to be something that they will absolutely love! And when they buy you something, they have those same intentions for you. If they didn’t then what would be the point of gifts? It would be no fun to give, or receive if neither parties enjoyed what was being given or gifted.
Believe it or not it is a traditional thing that we look forward to. Another perspective is that if something means so much to us, then it should mean something to you too… and vise vera. Which is why we work together and try to make the things we want to occur to happen. Truth is, that this is really how many of us woman think guys!
Keep in mind that we will be wearing that rock around our finger for the rest of our lives! So, why not get what we like, I mean, we’ll have to look at it every day, and everyone else will see it too. Marriage is for the long run, it is meant to never end… which happens to be the only reason you should ever join in the “unity” in the first place!
Remember that the first question your girl will receive after a proposal will be, “Can I see your ring?!” or “What’s it look like?” And let me tell you first, if its somewhat pathetic, it becomes embarrassing to wait for the response… like “Oh. Uh. Thats nice,” as opposed to “OH! Wow!! It’s beautiful!”
The ring is a symbol which is often times not thought about seriously enough by some men. Another important thing to remember is that the ring means absolutely nothing to us if it was not given from the bottom of their heart, with intentions of making us happy. It is when a man truly cares that you hear not a single complaint of how much it cost… but you see them working hard to accomplish something they knew would make you happy, which in turn should make them happy too.
I suppose that one of the reasons we get so confused with the fact that “ring shopping” is so difficult is if it “has to be” something nice… which eventually overwhelms us because we can see what you men are buying when you say you have no money. It makes it seem like the things that would make us happy are irrelevant. Hence, when you buy a gazillion new things and then go on random shopping sprees after you have said you didn’t have any money it is a little baffling to think there was no time even for a nice evening dinner at a fancy restaurant every once in a while, or something that the girl would actually enjoy.
A quote I found from Hannah Moore is very helpful to explain where I am coming from on this subject saying, “Love never reasons but profusely gives; gives, like a thoughtless prodigal, its all, and trembles lest it has done too little.”
If the ring of choice that your woman wants (be it big or small) is too big of a sacrifice for you to handle, then your love is probably not deep enough for her. Chances are, if you give her a small ring, when she wanted a big one, she will still love you, and want to be with you if she truly loves you… but why not go the extra mile to make her happy if you truly love her in return?
It’s not something you run and do at any moment. This is why engagements are planned… which is why a man typically is the one who proposes… it gives him time to make sure that he is “ready” to get married (to avoid any mistakes), that he has enough money to support her (even if she has a job), and to support the family (if they choose to have one), and if he wants to give her the ring (which happens to be a symbolism for lack of better word -for life, love, and support) that she deserves, he can have time to SAVE up for it, then pop the question if and when he’s able and ready.
People say that forgiveness is something to be earned, something that is only given when asked for, and only to those who deserve it… but I disagree. Forgiveness is something that helps us to understand ourselves better through discovering how far we are willing to go to forgive others… especially if they won’t forgive you. If you want to be forgiven for the things that you’ve done wrong, then you too must forgive others to the same degree that you would want, or even expect in return.
It’s like the golden rule says, “Do unto others as you want them to do to you.” I honestly can’t remember the last time I even thought about what that rule really means… its so simple really, but crucial to the growing and expansion of our minds.
Sometimes we forget that it is when a friend hits a rough patch that they need you most. It’s when they are low and feeling down, and have wronged you that they need you to be there for them, and bestow upon them your forgiveness. They are delicate, and vulnerable.
We forget that even though heaven isn’t attained through “good works,” that a good life is, and doing something nice for others is favorable in God’s eyes. We forget sometimes that memories fade, and seasons change, but the things we learned through experience we will carry on with us forever.
This is why it is a valuable lesson to remember to:
And when the moment of truth comes to question: “Was I there for others? Did I show love, peace and compassion?” You will know what to find because “what goes around, comes around.” So always forgive others when they need to be forgiven and realize that it’s not really for them… It’s for you, so that you can move on, and live life carefree with out holding grudges. To prepare your heart, and your mind to allow them to be healthy, and optimistic… And God will smile upon you; because He loves you and recognizes that you are growing and learning that if He can forgive US for all we’ve done, then we can find it in our hearts to forgive everyone who wrongs us in return. In closing, an unknown author said: “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Are we strong enough?