On the subject of: Love.
People have defined love as a feeling, strong emotions, and affection. But is this all it extends to? According to Wikipedia.org, ”Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.”
I’d say this is a fair definition but has left out many important factors which could never be fully grasped by anyone who feels that they have truly been in love.
Love is self sacrificing, and isn’t always necessarily reciprocated from person to person. Love is a mutual bond of trust that can go both ways. Love is persistence. However, to my knowledge in todays understanding we assume that if a couple have been together for a while and are “in love,” then they should automatically have plans to get married -eventually. I used to think that was the point.
That is until I discovered REAL love. –Not true love per-say, but real love, (difference even in the two words “real,” and “true”). However, just because two people are in love doesn’t mean they should be together for the rest of their lives. After all, love is NOT “lets run off and get married,” soon as it happens. There are reasons why society expects you to have dated a person for an “at least” period of time. Here’s why I say this: We live and we learn. Dating is a first step to building relationships, falling in love, and getting married (at least most of the time). Dating was designed to help us gain experience and knowledge to better prepare us for our partner. But just because you’ve dated doesn’t mean marriage either.
Love and dating were designed to withstand the battle against time in a relationship. NOT only for a recognized couple, but for long-term friendships, which are necessary to our growth as people.
You know, people have said that if you are with someone, with no intentions of marriage, than its a dead end and you’re wasting your time. Again, I used to agree, but now I beg to differ.
I know from personal experience that you can be with someone because you enjoy each others company, you have similarities, you have no one else, and you stick up for each other. I guess its like siblings (not to say they are the same as). You do everything together, but maybe you fight sometimes. Siblings are made to be there for the rest of your life, but you aren’t suppose to live with them forever… even if they do play a key part in our growth, and even in sustaining our growth throughout our lives as friends, rather than partners. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry once said “Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.” I feel this sentence proves my point.
Love is friendship, caring and kindness, a symbol of eternity. Love is telling the truth even when it hurts. Love is showing interest in what the other has to say. Love is wanting the other to always be happy. Love is helping around the house. Love is endless forgiveness, and patience. Love is putting the other person before yourself, and being their for each other. Love is thoughtfulness. Love is a shoulder to cry on, even when it is crying about another person. Love is a tender look. Love is “in sickness and in health.” Love is strength. Love is beauty (do i love you because you’re beautiful? Or are you beautiful because I love you?). Love is “I want you in my life forever,” even if that means it won’t be the way that you want them there.
Why leave a relationship that you are happy with just because you think you can’t and won’t get married? The only reason you should do that is if you were to maintain the relationship on a friendship level because you want to start settling down, or to ensure you would never lose the friendship because you went too far in the relationship. However, if you aren’t settling down, or seeking to end the relationship then enjoy the times you have together. Besides, if you are leaving a perfectly good relationship just because you aren’t getting married, chances are you will have doubts. And if you have doubts then it is a dangerous path to take. You could regret it later and it could be too late. After all, you couldn’t possibly know what the future REALLY holds.
Remember that giving ultimatums is never a good idea because pushing and rushing into a marriage that wasn’t originally desired from both people in the first place could result in a lot more heartache than you’re ready to handle. If you know you need more, and they can’t provide it for you, then you might already have found your answer -to move on.
Always keep God, and your family high on your priority list, and the rest usually falls into place in due time. When marriage is ready for you. Not the other way around.