Moving On – Living Successfully
How much should one dwell on the past? I mean, reminiscing every once in a while isn’t necessarily a bad idea but I’ve learned a thing or two from others who could do nothing but beat themselves over the head with a bat… and I’ll be honest with you, I’ve been there a time or two myself, and it’s not a good habit to get yourself into.
Now, if you are dwelling on the past only to have complaints on that which cannot be changed, keep in mind that even that gets old and eventually you need to get over it. If you dwell on the past because you don’t know how to cope with your feelings to move on, then think about the steps it requires to get over something. Recognize that yes, your memories were precious at the time, or painful even and they served their purpose of making you into who you are today. And now that you’ve learned from the past you can let it go.
If it is a painful memory that you are having a hard time getting past, forgiving yourself is one of the first things you should do. In order to live successfully you must love yourself so that you know “what is best” for you and are able to do what it is that is necessary for your personal growth.
After you have that down, then you can work on building relationships with other people. It is important that you recognize that people don’t enjoy spending time with someone who never gets over themselves, only speaks about themselves, and never asks a thing or two about you.
If you want people to listen to you, you too must listen to them providing them the same equal opportunity of respect and friendship available from your heart.
Now, some people may not realize that there is such a thing as living unsuccessfully. But there is, and by this I do not mean the status of your income. By this, I mean happiness, which requires your immediate attention if its lacking.
If you are having feelings of depression or emotional imbalances chances are that you already know it. Others may be in denial. But if you recognize the cycle all it takes is for you to fight against it. This may seem a little un-peaceful but I’m speaking from experience. If you let the depression suck you up into a hole, then you’re practically living unsuccessfully. You’re unhappy and theirs “no point to life.” Or at least that’s how I felt. This is why I encourage you to REDEFINE yourself. REMAKE yourself into who you want to be.
It may take a little work. But in the long run, you’ll thank yourself for it. Besides, you’re worth it!